Power Of Avatar

I used to experience feeling lost. It manifested itself in different ways. Sometimes I would be at a loss of how to respond to my son's behavior or what to prioritize. However, by far the most painful experience of feeling lost was a sense of not being able to access my higher-self, my knowing. I would feel an underlying sense that I was lost in the mind but couldn't reconnect with my heart.

One day I woke up, lost in my mental tapes of how much there was to do and feeling annoyed with myself for even running the tapes. I wanted to understand what caused that separation in the first place. Was it the belief that there was so much to do? Was it my annoyance? Was it both?

Harry Palmer, author of the Avatar® materials says, "Judgments are what cause experience to be painful." I had been using the Avatar tools successfully in all areas of my life. That morning I was determined to handle this pattern! I decided to see what would happen if let-go of judging myself. For a moment I let-go of the self-criticism. To my surprise I felt totally relaxed and connected. As I went through my morning routine I decided to simply be aware of my mind instead of judging everything.

As I went through my day, it made more and more sense. I realized that statements like "This is outrageous, I should be better than this" were the cause of my resistance. Saying "This is wrong" or "This is not good enough" led me to want to control, fix, or react. It was these states of mind that blocked me from accessing my inner peace! It seemed so simple but it was also such a revelation. I could stop battling my own mind. I felt a deep sense of freedom. My whole need to assess and make judgments about everything started to lift.

I had plenty of opportunities to practice. That day my son decided to override our agreement and do his homework while texting, listening to music and doing Facebook. I could feel my reactions to the broken agreement, as well as to the whole three-ring-circus of media. Before I spoke I decided to release my judgments. Then I simply asked him to respect our agreement and he agreed to do some acts of kindness to make up for the break in trust. No reaction, just clear communication.

Later on I had an important decision to make. I could feel that I was stressed about it. Sure enough, I discovered that I had some judgments about one of the possible choices, which were causing resistance and complicating the process. After I released them, I was reconnected with my intuition and was able to feel which direction was right for me.

I can now see that it is judgments that really lock me out of my heart. They are the cause of anger, resentment, lack of forgiveness, reactivity, a sense of feeling stuck, and the many other ways we keep ourselves from our true nature. It is like trying to get rid of negativity with more negativity! It ends in a downward spiral! I also realized that when I stop judging I feel connected and present and can more easily determine what I want to create. I can be in my natural state of higher-awareness and have choice over what to believe.
That morning when I stopped resisting the so-much-to-do belief, it passed and I was able to decide to have a productive day.

Letting-go of judgments can be easier said than done. I always think of the first of the 4 Nobel Truths that Buddha shared. He taught that "Life is Suffering." To me this means that when we look at people and ourselves and realize that we are suffering, rather than thinking we are wrong or bad, we immediately feel a sense of compassion. There is a beautiful compassion exercise that many people are now using to increase compassion and inner peace. It is from the Avatar® ReSurfacing® Workbook and is also now used in the Compassion Project around the world.

It is liberating to know that I have the choice of whether or not to judge myself. I am grateful for the tools to be able to release judgments, and I am grateful that I can now always find my way home.